During this fortnight, I also set about gathering as much information as I possibly could about the life my husband kept secret from us. I contacted a number of the prostitutes he had been with and got lucky early on when I was invited into conversation by one of his scorned ex-lovers. I was shocked to discover that besides paying her an hourly fee of €500, he also regularly gave her large sums of cash to cover her childcare and shopping bills. They had formed a close relationship; well, as close a relationship as a prostitute and her client can form. She wasn't sure why he stopped calling but presumed he had found someone new.
Now I know that I am not alone and it makes me feel a little bit better..My husband also secretly married, behind my back, even that I told him clearly that I don't accept to be in such marriage. She sent me their pictures together, saying that she is his wife. It broke my heart, I felt so devastated and all I could is to cry. It has been almost a year since then and I still can't heal myself. Things actually got worse as she is pregnant now. He married her because he used to have choice and it was hard for him to stay just with me, even that he told me so many times that he loves just me and I am his life. I can't understand how could he hurt me so much, and I hate that woman,,,I know its wrong and it only makes me feel worse and that I need to accept whatever Allah sends to me, that He knows better, but whoever says its not a big deal and easy to accept must have stone instead of heart or just doesn't love her husband. Because to know your beloved man is in somebody else's hug hurts and burns from inside. Whoever considers to become a second wife - please, realise that most likely the first wife is gonna be hurt so so much, and you don't want to be a reason of this.
Hi. I have read many comments just now about husband marrying second wife. I am not Muslim. I am Christian my husband is Muslim a d married before he met me to a Muslim woman when he lived in my country it was okay that we lived together without marriage I would have liked to marry him but because he already had a wife it was against our law for him to marry again he returned to his country and divorced his wife and we married. His ex wife made many problems us for the last four years. I would just like to add here that they have three children born before I met him. I did and do understand that this woman would feel angry and jealous about me and I am truly sorry for this. But, I know they never had love between them, however I do feel sorry for the kids. My husband lived away from them for 12 years in another country so they grew up not having a father when he returned he thought he could earn their love and respect but of course this did not happen
To shorten my story my husband secretly remarried his ex wife while I was on holidays last year. I found out because two days ago she came to my house and told me he was her husband!
I am still in shock. My husband lied to me. ....And I cannot forgive this.... He said we will divorce this week and he probable will but can I ever trust him again. I think not.... Will he marry her again the next time I return to my country for a holiday? I don't know?..... I am not rushing into anything. First because I have no money to start a life in my country and secondly even even though he has betrayed my trust in the worst way I do still love him. I don't tell him this and we now sleep in separate rooms. So my friends what are the answers There is no right or wrong answer to this situation I must make the decision my self and live with it. But I will take time to REALLY think about it as I will have to live with this decision for the rest of my life......go in peace.
OP: To shorten my story my husband secretly remarried his ex wife while I was on holidays last year. I found out because two days ago she came to my house and told me he was her husband!
I am still in shock. My husband lied to me. ....And I cannot forgive this..